Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
I don’t aspire to be a Skinny Bitch. I do pick on myself, as most women do, but in a world full of superficial role models, and in a house full of young girls, I know that I need to stop that.
What does God value? What does He applaud as a woman worthy of praise?
It’s hard not to sigh at the scale. It’s hard not to be frustrated at my reflection. I want to point out the chubby girl I see in photos now, who’s sitting around with my head on her body and say, “That’s not me, is it?!” I fantasize about the day my jeans are loose again; heck even the day that they actually zip.
I was recently told by a friend that she overheard two women in their 50s (one that I don’t even know) rush to Facebook to giggle about how much weight I’d gained this past year.
You can’t hurt me with that. I can always lose some weight. But what are you going to do about the fact that you’re a shallow gossip? Lord, forgive them.
As Marmee says in Little Women, “If you feel your value lies in being merely decorative, I fear that someday you might find yourself believing that’s all that you really are. Time erodes all such beauty, but what it cannot diminish is the wonderful workings of your mind: Your humor, your kindness, and your moral courage.”
I have found that I can be quite joyous at any size, and I encourage my friends–don’t worry if you aren’t a “skinny bitch” right now, I’m writing a better book–Chubby Sweetheart.
I will never regret one pound I gained growing my 5 beautiful daughters. I’ve got time.