Did you think you weren’t my favorite daughter? Because you were. You were, you were.
Please don’t ever think that.
“I hate you!!!! I hate you, Mom!!” Her feet are close to the edge of the broken floor tile. Her face is red rage and tears.
“You can’t act this way, and it’s my job to make sure you know that.” I pick her up and carry her to the dining room and place her firmly on a chair. She doesn’t know that I’m getting her foot away from the tile. She doesn’t know that I’m getting her 4-year-old eyes out of the kitchen.
“Aaaaaaaaa!!!!” She swings and kicks her legs so much that the chair bounces around.
“You. Better. Quit.” I kneel down in front of her, place a hand on either side of the chair to steady it. My face is calm. My heart is racing. She looks away first.
“I hate you!!” She screams to the back of my head as I walk into the kitchen. I put a new, clean trash bag into the trash can and bring it back to the dining room.
“Take off your new dress and put it in here. You will not be allowed to scream at me and hit and kick me wearing this dress I just bought you.” I hold the trash can out toward her.
“I don’t care! I don’t want it! It’s ugly!” She takes it off and throws it in the trash. The giant jewel on the top of the dress hits me in the knuckle; I clench my jaw.
“You won’t need this baby doll with a matching dress either.” I pick up her doll off the table and drop it into the clean trash bag.
“I don’t care.” She opens her mouth slightly again, then closes it. Crosses her arms.
“What’s it going take? Because I can keep going.” I can’t keep going. I can’t, but I will.
My methods are probably all wrong. I don’t know what I’m doing. We don’t usually say it, but most moms…we think it. We don’t know what we are doing, or if it’ll work.
I pick up her new iPod touch, drop it loudly into the trash, never looking away from her eyes. She doesn’t care. I don’t know what else to throw away. I don’t know how to break her rebellious attitude.
Freddie bounces his way into the dining room, unwittingly. Her sweet, fluffy gray kitten. He bats at a dust particles swimming around in the light from the bay window. I scoop him up.
Her eyes look worried.
“I guess you won’t be needing your kitten either.” I place him gingerly onto her dress in the trash can.
“NO!! Please NOT Freddie! I’m sorry.” Her sob changes, her voice softens. “I’m sorry, Mom. I’m sorry. I don’t hate you.”
She reaches for me. I can’t pick her up fast enough. I fold my arms under her baggy Dora panties. Her tiny butt rests on my forearm.
We bend down together and pick up Freddie. He’s not worried. He wants down so he can attack the dust again.
I collapse onto her chair and we hold on and rock each other. Paper mache streaks of snot-glazed hair.
Shh, shh…you are my baby forever. You are my favorite.
I hold on. I rock. I think of all the things we never did do together, all the things I should’ve done better…
If you think a person can’t have five favorite daughters, then you obviously don’t have five daughters.